Stalkers!

[Dragon Sleeper]

Definition:

A prior relationship exists between the victim and the stalker which includes the following:

1. Acquaintance
2. neighbor
3. customer
4. professional relationship
5. dating, and
6. lover

The stalking behavior begins after either:

1. The relationship has gone “sour”, or
2. The offending individual perceives some mistreatment
3. The stalker begins a campaign either to rectify the schism, or to seek some type of retribution

[Dragon Sleeper]

There are several signs that are good indicators of stalking behavior. It is also important to consider the intensity of such behaviors.

1. Persistent phone calls despite being told not to contact in any form.

2. Waiting at workplace or in neighborhood.

3. Threats.

4. Manipulative behavior (for example: threatening to commit suicide in order to get a response to such an "emergency" in the form of contact).

5. Sending written messages: letters, emails, graffiti...

6. Sending gifts from the seemingly "romantic" (flowers and/or candy) to the bizarre (dog teeth, a bed pan, a blood soaked feather) (Dietz et al. 1991b).

7. Defamation: The stalker often lies to others about the victim (claims of infidelity, for example).

8. "Objectification": The stalker derogates the victim, reducing him/her to an object -- this allows the stalker the ability to feel angry with the victim without experiencing empathy (Meloy and Gothard, 1995).

[Dragon Sleeper]

Stalkers are scum! When someone is not interested have some dignity and stop groveling..Self respect.....go get some!